Integrated Soul Healing in Wilmette and Chicago’s North Shore In today’s world, it’s easy to feel pulled in a hundred directions—stressed, disconnected, or carrying burdens that never seem to fully release. Healing isn’t just about treating symptoms or finding a quick fix. True healing touches every layer of who you are—body, mind, heart, and spirit. That’s what I offer through Integrated Soul Healing here in Wilmette, serving Chicago’s North Shore. This work isn’t about givi

Forgiveness is not for another. Yet our surrender to allow a greater power to inform us, will impact another by proxy. When no one is holding the story, the story ceases to be told and repeated. Not as repression, but as a purification of the habituated self who takes form as personality. Forgiveness is necessary to purify the solidity formed as our personhood. This solidity is the accumulation of places we have layered memories and emotion formed. They are also known as en

Relationship navigation can be really difficult, especially the more individualistic we are. We not only navigate what is conscious and we are aware of, but also what we are not aware of that impacts our choices. It's often at the choice point and the effect of the choice, that we have material to reflect on to make "wiser" decisions in the future. Yet if we are not asking the right questions to ourselves, we may mask the cause with modifying the behavior instead of shifting

How often do we receive something And go on automatic pilot? We say thank you to a sincere appreciation yet do not feel the appreciation inside. We observe the joy and adoration of another towards, yet we do not feel their joy as ours or adored. Are we so conditioned to shut off from receiving anything because we are so tired of protecting ourselves that even something good and true cannot touch us? Allow yourself, with me, with yourself in this moment. A deep ahhhhhhh, I Al

Consider that you must be able to say "No" and mean it, for your "Yes" to have any value to yourself. And those who have a healthy relationship with "No" also have healthy immune responses. A weak yes or no, is subsequently a powerless yes and no. What authority backs this "Yes" or "No"? And those who would take advantage of your powerlessness can do so because of your relationship to your power; a weak yes and no. This is directly correlated to a weak immune response. When y

To say no is a containment. It contains the sanctity of your yes. It allows your yes to rest within the firmness of the transparent walls of no. Yes and no organically dance to create paths and edges, rivers and shorelines, atmosphere and space, skin and organs, fruit and pulp. And inorganically dance as fences and property lines, streets and curbs, rooms and walls. All divinely created and all with a purpose. Yes and no can be like binary coding of 0 and 1 that make up th

Its hard to trust the person you are when you are still attached to the person you were. This is one key to forgiveness. You can do the work in dissecting all of the facets where you are connected to the person, the impact to the person, to yourself, the impact to yourself and repay the vibrational debt by experiencing the hurt. For some, this feels like momentary hell. Or you can surrender your pride of being right and having to hold any part of that image up, to maintain un

How can we be with people who don’t know how to be with themselves? This is a common conundrum of society that derives a lot of personal suffering. This dance of the inner and outer. The parenting of the adult and child. The polarizing of the masculine and feminine. The unfolding of the mystery becoming self-evident. The death and life dance. All of this teaches us how to be with ourselves and by proxy, with others. For when we don’t know nor try to pretend we should, life

It's okay to be right! It's okay to also let others be right too! It's okay to also let others be right at the same time as you! It sounds so simple, yet how many wars are started by forgetting the simplicity of inclusion? How many victim are made by not seeing themselves as another? Seeing themselves as another is inclusive of feeling, knowing, listening, understanding, and experiencing. When we start pointing in directions that start like a wave but soon lead us into the oc

"I am not going to stop being me because you can't be (me)." Compassion needed. Empathy needed. One is connected to a place or way the other is currently not. Empowerment present. One is not leaving themselves for the others happiness over their own. Opportunity is present to see the envy hidden here. The one who cannot envies the one who can. One has their power, the other seeks it. And the envy will pull through coercion and manipulation, to disempower the one who stands fi

Love is fully personal and equally impersonal. It by itself has no bias when in wholeness. The quality and experience of love feels different to the person as a friend, as a spouse or a child. Yet love is still love as the whole spectrum known and unknown to the person. To know love, one must also include and embody the impersonal love as well. The quality of this love is often experienced as “colder” as it doesn’t have the “warmer” tones of the person. Yet it is just as

In seeing the value of living a non violent life, we must look at all the subtleties that when left unseen and especially unattended, would agitate the mind into violence; violent thoughts, aggressive behaviors and postures. To abstain from following these impulses one must initially use will power to stop ourselves from acting upon them as a part of our human inheritance. Also one must look more closely at the value of acting upon them and question what violence gives them a

Self Identification is tricky. Narcissism is characterized by a lack of self reflection (awareness). But who is the one who has the "right" perspective? Yet within this idea of lack and self, the question arises: what/who/which is the self that is being reflected upon? Imagine that first without coming from a place of wholeness within the self reflection, which would include both people within its consideration, both then are reflecting from the same self. A self centere

Feeling sorry for someone It's not the same as feeling sorry with someone. Feeling sorry with someone is connective and touches the same essence of sorrow where the other no longer feels alone. When we cannot touch the same depth of our own human density, we stay in disconnection while with another. It's also informs us where surrender and trust await a choice. What one cannot do for themselves, the one who can, does for both. Just by being with the other where they are. This

When we withhold from another, we withhold from God (love) within ourselves. First we withhold affection that would connect two to make one, and will ourselves to be separate, against our nature. Painful. Withholding is a form of denying another and creating an other. At some point, sooner or later, we will be called to correct the distortion.

That which we can experience we are. Availability is a key to intimacy. Letting us receive life fully, communion with ourselves, with Source, is the greatest gift we are given. I am using the example of purity as a gateway into the frequency and the embodiment of the frequency that generates a divine intimacy between the experiencer, the experienced and the observer (witness) of the whole of it. That and this are not separate. Our ability to communicate is so much more than

You deeply desire with the whole of your being to be seen, to be known with all of your heart, and all of who you are. You want to be known, explored, enjoyed, delighted in, connected to, seen, felt, experienced, journeyed…all of it accepted, honored, revered, cherished, adored.... Yet you fear the intensity of how available that love is to you and those who would also be so available to give you exactly what you want. And you fear what you must give up for you to have that.

On some level, Mastery requires a large scope of understanding, not only of the subject at hand but also of the interconnected weavings of how the subject connects to the whole of the individual self. Subject and object are and become known as a process (journey) and integrated as the individual. The more bodies that become/ are integrated, the more self awareness. Parts become known whole and whole bodies become larger known bodies becoming larger known bodies, and so on. Th

Oh wee one. You who longs to be held and to hold. With the innocence of longing, that tender connection be the lighthouse and refuge, satiating savior to the burning desire of completion. With arms outstretched to the beloved, who will hold this crying one but the one who’s soft heart knows this cry? Behind the walls of infirmity is the one who resides in wholeness, untouched by the world. And also, untouched by itself. To be left, alone, to suffer the completion of relation

Whole in love. You give yourself away. Available to be shifted and molded. Open and surrendered, available within the mystery of now relating, to dance. Watch how you do that when you are in love. As love. Dance. Open and available to be seen, to be known, to be loved, to be cherished and adored, wanted, desired and held is the greatest gift you can give anyone: the all of yourself. This lovability is a supreme treasure.